Detach From Codependency With LOVE

Lifelong . Opportunity . Vision . Enabled

"Life is not about finding yourself.

Life is about creating yourself."

~ Lolly Daskai ~


"Don't be pushed by your problems.

Be led by your dreams."

~ Ralph Waldo Emerson ~


"Don't ask yourself what the world needs, ask yourself what makes you come alive. And then go and do that. Because what the world needs is people who are alive.

~ Howard Thurman ~


"Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do then by the ones you did do."

~ Mark Twain ~


"If you always do what you've always done, you'll always get what you've always had. No one rises to low expectations."

~ Anonymous ~

LIFELONG - Your life is precious and unrepeatable.

Your life is controlled by what you choose and what you do.

You can choose unconsciously, by living a codependent life from what has been your "NORMAL" "UP UNTIL NOW". Unconsciously letting the chaos determine who you are and what you do.

Or you can choose to consciously detach from codependency and create your "NEW NORMAL". Consciously living a life you LOVE. Consciously teaching your children, by example, what a joyful, fulfilling life is.

What happens in the moment you decide to detach? You learn...

  • That what is within you is far greater than anything in your surroundings.

  • To befriend your fears to resist the gravitational pull to the familiar.

  • Mental, emotional and spiritual practices of forgiveness to change your present and transform your future.

  • To create a support system to get you from where you are to where you would LOVE to be.

  • That what you perceive as failure is really information. Your reaction to and definition of failure is what defines you.

  • When you change your thinking you change your conditions.

  • To be the HERO in your children's lives.

OPPORTUNITY - Codependency is a family burden.

As parents, we're always excited when our children say they want to follow in our footsteps as doctors, lawyers, teachers, nurses...

Have you ever heard them say, "I want to be CODEPENDENT just like mom or dad"?

As an adolescent this "NORMAL" consumed your life. As an adults, you carry the burden of codependency into your relationships over and over wondering why you keep living in chaos.

If you don't detach from your codependency, this cycle will continue and the burden of codependency will be passed to your children and theirs to come. It will become their "NORMAL".

We, believe codependency ought not be a "lifelong sentence".

We have the PLAN for YOU to DETACH from your codependency with LOVE; gain self-confidence and design your "NEW NORMAL". A "New Normal" your children will gladly inherit.

VISION - You SEE and you are SEEN.

Being codependent it's in your nature to SEE BEYOND peoples actions. You can see their true potential, even when they can't see it for themselves. This applies whether they're addicts or not.

It's so frustrating that no matter how hard you try, you can't get others to see what you can see; to be what you see them being and doing. And if they try on your behalf it's not sustainable.

Your adult family and friends SEE you as strong and resilient. You're SEEN by your children  as their guide and mentor. Through your actions you're teaching them how to interact with others. What a relationship, good or bad, looks like. You have made your "NORMAL" their "NORMAL".

They will follow in your footsteps, choosing unhealthy relationships and living in chaos, just like you. That's why it's so important that you DETACH from codependency with LOVE.

Why detach with LOVE? Because while codependency is a villain, it's also a friend. A friend that has kept you safe "UP UNTIL NOW". It has taught you many lessons. It has made you strong in the face of chaos.

ENABLED - The Power Of Will.

Willpower is when you don’t give up, no matter what. It’s about keeping the chaos at a reasonable level. It’s about picking up all the pieces of your life and beginning again.

Will is a muscle codependents aren’t encouraged to build or strengthen. It’s built through failures we push through and learn from. It’s strengthened with self-confidence which we have little of. 

Most often we live lives through someone else’s dreams and goals; the desire to fuel our own is not there. There is a formula for detaching with love. There must be ...

  • The WILL to make life better even when there is chaos.

  • A DESIRE to have your own dreams and goals.

  • The BELIEF that what is within you is far more powerful than anything outside of you.

  • Support to keep you from falling back in to old patterns of being and doing.

What You Can Expect When Working With Me



It's my intention to be your guide as you detach from codependency with LOVE and design your "NEW NORMAL".


As your guide, I'll give you my full attention, watching for stumbling blocks and underused resources. 


It's my expectation that you'll want to apply your "NEW NORMAL" to all 4 quadrants of your life; health, career, relationships and time money freedom in the design of your dowry of self-worth, confidence and purpose.

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