Memories of my family life, before the age of 7 were that my father was my hero; my guardian; my world. My mother was caring but distant.
My sisters, who are 6 and 8 years older than I, have different perceptions of our family dynamic. I was 30+ years old when I was told, by my sister, that our father was an alcoholic. For a long time I thought she was lying.
As I looked back on my adolescent years, I remember being very lonely. I wasn't allowed to have friends. I changed schools every two years due to "moving". Though I could not put a name to it then, my father was a narcissist. I became proficient at adapting to my surroundings.
My father passed away when I was in my late teens. Now I sought other relationships that mimicked the family I grew up in. Why wouldn't I, it was my "normal". I put my whole self into being who or what other people wanted me to be. One disaster after another!
I was 26 when I married. He came from an alcoholic family too and became one himself. I spent the next 22 years creating a home life like I grew up in, and raising two wonderful sons, who in turn took on my codependent behaviors and patterns. This is how the cycle of codependency works. But once the children were out of the house I felt empty and didn't know what to do with myself. It was the time in my life I could be, do, have and give whatever "I" wanted. But I had always looked to others to tell me what it was I was suppose to be, do, have and give. I had no idea how to do it for myself.
Still not knowing much about codependency, I figured my next best step was to divorce. Of course I got into other relationships that were doomed.
Since that time, I've spent years and years in support groups and studying codependency. We can't change our past, but the good news is we can learn from it and use it to our advantage.
That is why, when I found the Brave Thinking Institute and all the programs they offer, I took my leap of faith to change my life from being codependent; living life defined by my conditions and circumstances; to living a heart centered, vision driven life.
I became a Certified Life Mastery Consultant. I use the Laws of Attraction, Receiving, Forgiveness, Success and many more to live my life. I have meaningful relationships. I grow as my clients grow into who they truly are.
I invite you to watch my FREE: BEYOND Today Vision Workshop. We'll dig deep into what a vision driven life is and create a blueprint of what you would LOVE for your life.
I want you to grow into who you are meant to be. I believe in you. Believe in my belief that you can have a life beyond codependency.
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